He’s Shorter Than Me….Should I Wear Heels?

Nicole Kidman (5’11”) with husband Keith Urban (5’10”)

In my opinion, a big fat YES! If you are confident enough in who you are and he doesn’t feel awkward walking beside you, what’s the problem?

I know, I know.  You’re sitting there saying…well, I don’t want to be towering over my guy.  I don’t want people staring at us because we look strange.  I totally understand.  I had a time when I felt uncomfortable in my skin.  It took some time but by the time I was 19, I finally felt confident enough to say, “If I like the shoes, I don’t care.  I will buy and wear them.”

Just look at some of the world’s celebrities like Tom Cruise (5’7″) who date women who are taller and was even married to Nicole Kidman (5’11”), who wore heels all the time.

But, you have to be comfortable at the end of the day.  If you’re not, take the time to find yourself some cute styles that will still make you feel sexy, confident and show off who you are.

Mick Jagger (5’10”) with girlfriend L’Wren Scott (6’3″).

Model and fashion designer, L’Wren Scott (6’3″), has been dating Mick Jagger (5’10”) and she often wears flat shoes that are quite stylish and still make her look elegant.

The bottom line is you have to find the balance in what makes you comfortable.  For me, I figure, I’m already tall so if I like the shoes I don’t care.  Why should I keep myself from owning some of my favourite things just because God happened to make me 6’1″?  I own several shoes and most of them are anywhere from one to four inches in height.

Myself with the founders of AfroChic. Standing tall in my four inch heels. (Photo by: Martin Alexander Jr.  twitter: @MAJ_PHOTOGRAPHY)

I recently hosted an event in Toronto, Canada and I was wearing my current favourite Franco Sarto sandals I have had for a couple of seasons now.  They are about 4 inches tall.  Check me out in the press photo above with the co-founders.  I’m towering over them.

I always enjoy wearing heels because they make me feel sexy and give me that ‘runway’ strut.  I think they can make or break an outfit.  I have dated men slightly shorter than me but I always wear heels regardless.  I figure, the man knows I’m tall and usually met me when I was already wearing heels.  So he obviously knows I wear them.  I’m not going to change who I am if he suddenly becomes uncomfortable.

What can I say? I love shoes. I love heels and I don’t care that I’m tall, I’ll always wear heels.

What do you do?

Myself towering over a friend at a media conference.  My wedges have 3 inches. See how she’s standing on her toes to look taller.

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